![]() But I know she approves of my willingness to beg both before and during a relationship. I’m not at liberty to discuss my friend Kayla’s opinion on romantic pleas from men in real life (I know what that opinion is, I’m just not at liberty to discuss it). Ladies say: “I’m your girl, you’re my man I’m gonna tell it to the whole wide world” Like my money, all my cars (you can have it all and)įlowers, cards and candy (I do it just ’cause I’m) When you say that you love them and you really knowĮverything that used to matter don’t matter no more Though I’m slightly more functional during the day than Usher is in this part of the song, as what he’s describing could border on some form of depression, the fact that my happily coupled self can relate to these lyrics at all speaks to how evergreen this sort of simping is. In that piece, I wrote about the restlessness I often feel sleeping without my partner beside me when I’m away on work trips. The second half of the chorus is reflective of something I covered in my breakdown of Kehlani and Justin Bieber’s “up at night,” a song about separation anxiety in relationships. The beginning of the above chorus is very clear about this part: The first step in yearning for someone is every minute without them feeling like an hour. This is what it means to “have it bad.” In 2001, it looked like, “When you’re on the phone, hang up and you call right back.” In 2022 it looks more like checking that DM or text thread every three minutes as if your phone suddenly stopped sending push notifications. This is true whether your own actions are the reason that person isn’t around, or if you’ve been ensnared in a seemingly never-ending “talking stage” and haven’t yet committed to each other in the first place. The feeling that if you were to go one more day without the person you want, you might actually combust in a fit of despair. Essentially, this is what’s at the core of most begging music, “U Got It Bad” included. Once a person is finally open to love, no matter how that readiness came to be, that’s when their greatest sense of romantic urgency hits. ![]() You got it bad when you’re out with someoneīut you keep on thinking ’bout somebody else You don’t wanna have fun, it’s all you think about Know you got it bad when you’re stuck in the house If you miss a day without your friend, your whole life’s off-track When you’re on the phone, hang up and you call right back For those of us lucky enough to have found love despite certain obstacles, the intense attachment in the following chorus is also relatable. “I’ve been there, done it, f**ked around/ After all that, this is what I found/ Nobody wants to be alone.” Plenty of big city daters have come to this realization at some point, and it didn’t take damaging a relationship to get there. For people who are truly ready for a serious relationship, as they yearn for a deeper connection than anyone on their current roster could give them, the song’s pre-chorus is especially powerful. Nothing will make you realize this faster than falling in love.Īs Usher describes finding someone who makes you want to forget your past and skip nights out with your crew, that sentiment could apply to the discovery of a new love just as much as the near loss of an old one. These things are fun until they’re suddenly boring. Being from New York myself, I feel like I’ve been to enough day parties, smoked enough hookah, and gone home with enough strangers for two lifetimes. If you live in a city with an infamously casual dating scene-New York, Atlanta, Los Angeles, etc.-certain lyrics from the song’s opening verse and pre-chorus could speak to the exhaustion you’ve felt navigating the trappings of such areas. But the record could also be interpreted in another way. Within the context of the song’s lyrics, that clarity presumably comes after the consequences of cheating. ![]() Throughout much of “U Got It Bad,” Usher, supported by co-writers Brian Michael-Cox and Jermaine Dupri, sings of the clarity that comes with finding love. If you’re touched by the words in this song Said you act like you ready, but you don’t really knowĪnd everything in your past, you wanna let it go Makes you change your ways like hanging with your crew When you feel it in your body, you found somebody who Believe it or not, the lyrics of “U Got It Bad” fit this kind of head-over-heels, nose-wide-openness just as well. Instead, as a hopeful romantic (and a Cancer), most of my begging happens in courtship. This means I’ve never felt the desire to rekindle an extinguished flame. Every breakup I’ve experienced happened for reasons that had more to do with circumstance than any one person’s actions. Wood is being knocked on as I write this, but I’ve never messed up bad enough for a woman to want to leave me.
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